People valued goodness in different ways: some believe that kindness is love and selfless care for others; others think that goodness is used by people to benefit themselves, but in reality other people do not care about them at all. And what do you think about the goodness of other people?
It may be hard for some to believe, but research reveals that being good for others can make us truly happy. It is proven that being good to others or collaborating with others activate’s the same areas of the brain, which are also activated when people eat delicious food or consume addictive substances. In other words are activated, those areas of the brain that are responsible for pleasure. So that feeling we feel doing something good for others is called a “warm glow” and this feeling has a biological basis. Of course, it is not at all necessary to scan the brain to make sure that kindness is good for us, research shows that benevolent people are happy. How goodness increases our sense of happiness depends on several different mechanisms, and how these mechanisms evoke a sense of happiness depends on our personality. We are all different. Each of us can discover what kind of work is right for us and what we can do with love, kindness, sincere devotion.
Below are some ways to increase your sense of happiness: Simple smile- it seems that other people’s kindness touches something inside us and we smile unconsciously. Why? Researchers studying brain activity say that when we see other people’s emotions, it automatically activates the same areas of our brain, as if we were experiencing those emotions ourselves. Probably each of us would easily remember the situation in which we sincerely laughed because the other person was laughing. So why not “infect” another person with laugh?
Take care of others– researchers say that the same mechanisms work when other people are in a negative mood, we identify with them and our mood becomes similar to their mood. This is especially evident among close friends or family members. Why? Because we are all connected to each other and feel each other. If we do something good for a person who is sad or frustrated to make him feel better, then we can also feel good for two reasons: because we feel the same relief as he feels, and because we do good to that person.
Make new friends– you will probably agree that good people are loved by others. There are usually a lot of people around them. Sometimes they even need to “hide” from others in order to rest and recover. True, we are all good people, only our behavior is sometimes inappropriate. Unfortunately, we do not always show our goodness to others. Sometimes we don’t know how to do it, sometimes we don’t want to do it, and sometimes we want to, but we’re afraid to do it. Some simple acts of kindness, such as giving a small gift to someone or just serving coffee can lift the mood and strengthen a friendship. Here is matters not the size of the gift, but the shown attention.
Goodness as identity– most people consider themselves as good, kind people. Being good makes us look positive and attractive to others and we can be proud of ourselves that we are valued and loved by others. The results of one study revealed that even first-graders find that being good and pleasant to others helps them feel better, which increases children’s sense of happiness. Only later, due to various life circumstances, we do conclude that it is better to identify with domination, anger, or some other quality. We usually identify with the feeling or trait that benefits us the most, no matter how we hurt others. Or maybe we can challenge ourselves and discover goodness in ourselves, as if we were children again, let us identify with goodness.
Goodness returns– kindness researchers say that kindness can come back to us directly or indirectly. We all probably know of such examples, if in the past we have helped someone, done something good, that person will help us or do something good after a while. It may also be the case that one good person encourages several people or a whole group of people to be better because goodness is in each of us, but not all of us have the power or want to show it, so we learn from others. Being good can improve our mood, on the other hand a good mood can help us become even better. It is a wonderful connection between happiness and goodness, the essence of which is sincere giving.